I am happy to report that the book is quite helpful. The premise is that we all speak different love languages, and if your partner isn't "speaking your language" you do not feel loved. For example, one of the languages is Words of Affirmation. So if I have a partner that speaks critically to me often, and rarely encourages and praises me, I won't feel loved even if he is trying to love me by doing things for me and spending time with me. The book can help you figure out your own love language and your partner's.
Amzie and I are both quality time people, but as Dr. Chapman puts it, we have different dialects. Amzie just needs for me to spend time with him, and do things with him. I need that, but I also specifically need some really devoted attention and conversation - no TV, no magazine in the lap, etc.
All in all we do a pretty good job of making each other feel loved. But the book has some concrete advice about how to give your partner all your attention - essentially how to be a good listener and a good conversationalist. Amzie is great at telling stories and he's never met a stranger. But if I want to talk about something that's on my mind, something that I'm trying to figure out or something, he doesn't really get how important it is to be a good listener. And if he doesn't know the solution to my problem he just says "I dont' know" and the conversation is over. Sometimes I want him to just brainstorm with me or something. So we'll see if this book can help him learn some things in this regard. I know he loves me and wants me to feel loved, so I have faith that it will.
So, in closing, I would recommend this book. And it's not only for people in relationships - it can explain how to be a better daughter, a better sister, a better friend.
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